Self-Improvement. It’s about actively changing yourself for the better. It can result in a richer quality of life and true success. For women in particular, it may mean shifting our focus away from our kids, families, friends, work, pets, or other things we feel obligated to prioritize and, instead, focusing on ourselves for a moment. In my work with A Woman’s Place (AWP), I witness women struggling with this all of the time.
I tend to apply a Mind-Body-Spirit approach. I try to stimulate my intellect, stay current on relevant topics, and pay attention to what other talented people are doing and saying (and how they are doing and saying it). I run and I try to eat healthy, only occasionally giving in to the call of the Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup Minis (or, like this morning, Tastykake Rich Frosted Mini Donuts). Frankly, self-improvement is not about living a life of denial – of truths or pleasing snacks. I attend church and seek out other moments between the Sunday sermons to bask in the glow of the universe and acknowledge that it is clearly bigger than I and an amazing creation, no matter how you think it came abou
The most important things I’ve learned about self-improvement though, called for a little courage.
1) Not knowing everything and being able to admit such a limitation is delightfully freeing and allows me the opportunity to continue learning and to work in equal partnership with others.
2) Sometimes, when something doesn’t get done, the world keeps spinning and I will get another day to try again.
3) Dancing, screaming, crying, laughing, playing – all can be therapeutic and are often best when done with friends and complete abandon.
September is Self-Improvement Month. If you need one, let that be your excuse to focus on self… because the calendar says you should. You’ll figure out what works best for you if you allow yourself to explore freely. Try stuff out. Do something new. Give yourself permission to not do something that makes you miserable. Walk, run, or just stand still and breathe deep.
HOW WILL YOU TAKE TIME FOR SELF-IMPROVEMENT?
Ifeoma U. Aduba